Author: Ali

Hello readers. I am 30ish, single, barren spinster and I rep it proudly. I’ve lived all over the U.S. from the East Coast to West. Born just outside of Los Angeles, raised in New Mexico, and currently residing in Texas. When I’m not working, I spend my time grabbing drinks with friends, dancing, reading, seeing movies, and consuming a concerning amount of sugar. I’ve experienced a volley of ups and downs in my three decades(ish) and it's given me the useful tool of perspective. I have a knack for communicating and enjoy doing so. Welcome to the blog.

I AM EMBARRASSING

Anyone who knows me, knows that I’m a magnet for situations that are crazy, bizarre, and downright embarrassing. It’s been this way all my life, and apparently it’s genetic because I inherited it from my mother. I swear the two of us could have a podcast with endless content. So let’s just dive right into…

Boss Babes

This one is for all my boss ladies, the Chingonas, the hustle queens that grind to make their lives better every single day on this earth. We don’t make excuses; we make sacrifices. We work multiple jobs, we go to school, we wear many hats. And we do it for the sole purpose of blasting…

Why Can’t I be Alone?

Hello lovelies, long time, no post! 😦 I haven’t died, I’ve just been adjusting to my new life after the big move to Texas. In my last post, I left off with making changes for the better, uncharacteristic optimism, and hopeful positivity. Am I still manifesting that positivity, thriving and living my best life? Not…

Dealing with Discomfort to Improve Your Life

Big life changes can be exciting and exhilarating while simultaneously invoking terror and doubt. The kind of doubt that will make you second guess yourself and possibly cost you a great opportunity. I’m going through one of those big changes right now. Recently, I accepted a writing job I’ve been trying to get for the…

The Barren Spinster Chronicles

Hello lovelies! Just checking in with a riveting life update. This month I celebrated a one-year anniversary… with the stray cat I took in. I’m fully aware of what that looks like for my life and my proverbial dating profile. I’ve also noticed that I share striking personality traits with the cat. To date, he’s…

2020 Sucked, But Also Kinda Didn’t…

Today marks the last day of everyone’s worst year, 2020. It has undoubtedly been a shit-show from start to finish. The West Coast on fire — check, civil unrest boiling over in every state — check, Covid-19 flipping life as we know it upside down — check, and an election blooming more hatred than any…

Dating at 30

Hello reader. I’m 30-years-old, if that wasn’t clear from the title. I’m also single and on the dating scene. Hashtag thirty and flirty. Single and (cue the airhorn) ready to mingle. Okay, you get the point. I “relaunched” onto the dating scene two years ago after a horrendous break-up. With trial and error I was…

Civil Disobedience Over Civility

Looking into the past of the Civil Rights Movement, it’s easy to take a side when seeing the footage of peaceful protesters being hosed by firemen and attacked by police and their dogs. It’s easy to look back and have what is historically classified as hardened evidence of racism. It was written into the law,…

Sexist Biology: Is depression really worse for women?

Is depression truly sexist? Is it meaningful to say who has it harder, men or women? This post is a response to the article with the provocative title How Stress Hits Women’s Brains Harder—and Why Men Don’t Always Get It. I thought this would be a perfect discussion following my previous post where I open…

Depression: Taking care of yourself

Depression is definitely not a topic I ever thought I would be writing about. Even though it’s uncomfortable to open up about such a private matter I think it is incredibly important. First and foremost, it is important for my personal progress. Secondly, the statistics for the prevalence in young adults, especially young women, leaves…

Break-Up Blues: Getting out of a heartbreak funk

I’m certainly in no place to give relationship advice: two major relationships failed — knee-deep and wading my way through the remnants of that last one. But I think it’s fair to say any relationship advice, even from trained professionals, should be taken with a grain of salt. So, this isn’t relationship advice, this is…

Sisterhood: Women supporting women

Women are fierce competitors with one another. This is a biological and psychological reality of our existence. We compete for rank in social status, career and beauty. All of which funnels down into the most innately rooted motivation; to gain and keep the attention of a mate. The inner workings of a woman’s mind is…

One Year Since My Hysterectomy

December 19, 2018 officially marked the one year anniversary of my hysterectomy surgery. The surgery included the removal of my bicornuate uterus (that means two uterus, yeah… because one wasn’t enough for me), both fallopian tubes and cervix. I’ll state this in the off chance that I have any male readers, but yes, I still…

Permanent Sterilization Part II: Finding a surgeon

Having children is something I do not ever wish to do. I have made it 27 years and have not swayed from this decision. So, why deal with the stresses of menstruation, monstrous cramps, bloating, tampons and birth control for the remainder of my childbearing years? I cant find a good reason to put up…

Feminism: It’s time to take some self-responsibility

I have touched on this topic in previous posts; that is, my stance on feminism, and the never-ending confusion that ensues. My opinions and ideals for feminism are like a roller coaster at times. Since my last fem posts, I have learned much about feminism and post-feminism, which has enlightened me further on my stances…

Protests for DACA

Yesterday, I attended the Immigrant Walkout for DACA protest organized by the New Mexico Dream Team. I attended two separate events, one on the campus of University of New Mexico, and the other in the Albuquerque Down Town Civic Plaza. I reported on both events for my campus paper. When I report I must keep…

Women’s Oppression Across the globe

Disclaimer: this article contains information that may be concerning to those sensitive to the topics of rape, abuse and bodily mutilation. Choosing a thesis topic as a senior in high school was the first moment I realized how truly lucky I am to be a woman of the west — that there are women in…

Permanent Sterilization Part I

I decided long ago that having a child is just not something I wish to do. I’ve never wavered from this choice. And I have never received so much unwarranted judgement for a seriously personal decision. It’s fascinating how people seem to take this news, as if it in any way, shape, or form, impacts…

Identifying as a Feminist

I have had trouble identifying or truly understanding where I, my thoughts, my principles fall in line with others. Fundamentally, it is not important to me to have a label. But, I am a human being, I crave social acceptance, and social group. We find others that connect with our ideals. We group to have…