Dating At 30

Hello reader. I’m 30-years-old, if that wasn’t clear from the title. I’m also single and on the dating scene. Hashtag thirty and flirty. Single and (cue the airhorn) ready to mingle. Okay, you get the point. I “relaunched” onto the dating scene two years ago after a horrendous break-up. With trial and error I was…

Civil Disobedience Over Civility

Looking into the past of the Civil Rights movement, it’s easy to take a side when seeing the footage of peaceful protesters being hosed by firemen and attacked by police and their dogs. It’s easy to look back and have what is historically classified as hardened evidence of racism. It was written into the law,…

If You’re Mad About Rioting, You’re Missing the Point

“America. Where property damage is a greater offense than genocide.” ― Darnell Lamont Walker It’s about sending a message. It’s about sending a … If You’re Mad About Rioting, You’re Missing the Point My good friend wrote a great article, check it out.

Sexist Biology: Is depression really worse for women?

Is depression truly sexist? Is it meaningful to say who has it harder; men or women? This post is a response to the article with the provocative title How Stress Hits Women’s Brains Harder—and Why Men Don’t Always Get It. I thought this would be a perfect discussion following my previous post where I open…

Depression: Taking care of yourself

Depression is definitely not a topic I ever thought I would be writing about. Even though it’s uncomfortable to open up about such a private matter I think it is incredibly important. First and foremost, it is important for my personal progress. Secondly, the statistics for the prevalence in young adults, especially young women, leaves…

Break-Up Blues: Get out of that heartbreak funk

I’m certainly in no place to give relationship advice: two major relationships failed — knee-deep and wading my way through the remnants of that last one. But I think it’s fair to say any relationship advice, even from trained professionals, should be taken with a grain of salt. So, this isn’t relationship advice, this is…

Sisterhood: Women support women

We women are fierce competitors with one another. This is a biological and psychological reality of our existence. We compete for social status, for career and for beauty. All of which funnels down into the most innately rooted motivation; to gain and keep the attention of a mate. The inner workings of a woman’s mind…

One Year Since My Hysterectomy

December 19, 2018 officially marked one year anniversary since my hysterectomy surgery. The surgery included the removal of my bicornuate uterus (that means two uteri, yeah… because one wasn’t enough for me), both fallopian tubes and cervix. I will state this in the off chance that I have any male readers, but yes, I still…

Hysterectomy Part II: The surgery

This vlog shares the experience of undergoing an elective hysterectomy at age 27. This is my first ever vlog so I apologize for the obvious discomfort in recording myself as well as the novice recording and editing skills. Please check out Part I of this post series for more information leading up to my surgery.

Hysterectomy Part I: Finding a surgeon

Having children is something I do not ever wish to do. I have made it 27 years and have not swayed from this decision. So, why deal with the stresses of menstruation, monstrous cramps, bloating, tampons and birth control for the remainder of my childbearing years? I cant find a good reason to put up…

Feminism: It’s time to take some self-responsibility

I have touched on this topic in previous posts; that is, my stance on feminism, and the never-ending confusion that ensues. My opinions and ideals for feminism are like a roller coaster at times. Since my last fem posts, I have learned much about feminism and post-feminism, which has enlightened me further on my stances…

Protests for DACA

Yesterday, I attended the Immigrant Walkout for DACA protest organized by the New Mexico Dream Team. I attended two separate events, one on the campus of University of New Mexico, and the other in the Albuquerque Down Town Civic Plaza. I reported on both events for my campus paper. When I report I must keep…

Women’s Oppression: Across the globe

Disclaimer: this article contains information that may be concerning to those sensitive to the topics of rape, abuse and bodily mutilation. Choosing a thesis topic as a senior in high school was the first moment I realized how truly lucky I am to be a woman of the west — that there are women in…

Permanent Sterilization: Looking at my options

I decided long ago that having a child is just not something I wish to do. I have not wavered from this choice. I have never received so much unwarranted judgement for a seriously personal decision. It is fascinating how people seem to take this news. Like that it in any way, shape, or form,…

Identifying as a Feminist

I have had trouble identifying or truly understanding where I, my thoughts, my principles fall in line with others. Fundamentally, it is not important to me to have a label. But, I am a human being, I crave social acceptance, and social group. We find others that connect with our ideals. We group to have…

Embracing Change: A personal evolution

They say people never change. Who are they? Because that is the biggest load of bull shit I have ever heard. Are you the same person you were at age 15? Age 21? If so, yikes… I look back at myself, my character, my decisions and choices, and it’s like looking at someone else entirely….

Just a Rant: Gender in the gym

For my fitness enthusiasts: I’ve been into fitness for the better half of the decade. I was certified as a Personal Trainer in 2013, and I’ve been working in the gym setting since. The gym is a man’s world in every sense. And being of my sensibilities, I embrace the shit show, and the amusement…

Integration of Women in U.S. Combat Roles: A step backward?

Should women have just as much of a right and opportunity as men for work and for pay? Damn right. But should women get those things, based only on the fact that she is a woman? I don’t believe so. For a truly equal society, it should be a society based on merit. If a…

It is 2017: Outdated gender norms

It’s 2017. My favorite response to someone’s outdated way of thinking; racism, sexism, objectification and other such topics, is to reference the actual year we live in. “Jesus dude, it’s 2017.” We have all done this, right? It is a statement to represent the passing of time. Usually in reference to the ‘big events’ where…